One of the most precious things about the RPR community over the past few years has been the growing number of listeners who became friends. On top of that, the fact that hobby friends check up on me is amazing. Thank you to everyone who has done that, especially when it’s evident that I might be struggling.

More to the point, I think the greatest vulnerability as a busy working fella in the modern world is when we don’t take the time to check in with other busy working fellas. It’s well documented that men generally socialise around activities – such as the football, the gym, or yes, the roleplaying game table. This social contact is vital for mental wellbeing.

In my experience, it’s very easy to try and put on a strong brave front when you are struggling. Prior to November 2020, when my façade finally shattered and I needed professional mental health support, I would have just smiled and tried to power through tough times. Being strong was, in hindsight, actually hiding vulnerability.

Roleplay Rescue has become a great source of community and support, and I like to believe it’s a two-way street. Sometimes I get to help someone and at other times, well, I am grateful to be helped. But the main feature of community is in the acceptance of our unique diverse natures and the possibility of connecting in spite of those differences.

As I plunged deeper into Movember this week, I was reminded of both the need for other male camaraderie and the wonderful moments where people have reached out and checked in. I can’t overstate how much it makes a difference when someone is struggling has a friend, or even a stranger, ask, “Are you ok?”

Thank you to all the friends I have found through this wonderful hobby. I am grateful for all the hijinks at the table and I am humbled by the love that can be shared over the imagining of fantastic worlds. Please keep checking in on your mates – we’ve all got a role to play in standing together.

Game on!